I am 30 and single.
I’m not desperate.
I’m not miserable.
This is not a dating site.
And I have no advice for you.
…but I do love stories.
We all hear the “love stories,” how God brought these two wonderful people together, how they waited on Him and for him, and how everything turned out “perfect” and how God graciously blessed their “broken road”… thank you Rascal Flatts.
But what happens to those who find “the one” but then she marries someone else. And what about the one who “waited” until – nothing ever happened. Who is telling their story??! I’d like to fix this.
I think being married will be awesome. But I also think singleness is awesome. And married people, you know those really awkward times you had dating, that sketcky guy who would ask you out…all the time, those nervous feelings you would have when you would ask her out, those miserable yet hilarious dating experiences and all those other experiences you love to share and tell… well, we have more. And not only that, we are still making and creating them.
SO what’s REALLY happening with those of us who are dating, trying to date…looking for “the one,” wondering if “the one” even exists, hearing that we should wait for “the one” but not being able to get “the one” to return our calls, deciding to choose “the one” but then not knowing who to choose, so dating “one” in hopes that she’s “the one” but meeting another “one” and hoping it will be different this time but then missing the other “one” so going back to that “one” wondering if she’s really “the one” or once again, if “the one” even exists… I need a nap.
Yes, I am 30 and single. And no, I don’t have many answers. When I was 20 and leading a group of young men, I used to give out a lot of answers. When you are 30 and still single, you don’t give out as many answers. You just tell stories and ask questions. The more I learn about relationships, the more I realize I never will have many answers. But at some point, I’ll dive in to a lasting relationship and create new stories. In the meantime, I will enjoy the awkward stories, the nervousness of calling a girl and asking her out, the freedom of singleness and road trips, and the ability to relate to my people, those who have tried only to hope the next one is the last one. There’s a lot of us. And we have awesome stories. They don’t always have perfect endings…. But they can be pretty funny.
What you can expect: I’ll post a blog on Monday’s about My Story (tracing my thoughts, my love history), Our Story (roundtable conversations and thoughts of the people), or Your Story (telling your stories).
We’ll keep it clean and we will seek…not answers but conversation and fun. We all have an opinion. We all have a story. And I would love to hear yours.